I am pretty confident that my basic needs are met...Maslow's Heirarchy is covered for the most part...I've moved beyond the realization that what my parents required to fulfill them is what will work for me....although I regularly mimic my Mom's desire to eat dinner at the table as a family on Sunday (or any other) evening, it's not a requirement to my happiness....or is it? Dammit! Once again, as much as I HATE to admit it, my Mother was right!
In pops the wants... I want the family dinner at the table on Sunday (or any other) evening...this brings me to how to go about fulfilling this want...the bottom line is I can't have my family by my side to fulfill this want. We are separated by distance & circumstance....my husband & best friend travels often for work, my beautiful daughters live in different towns, hours away from my home....so how do we possibly celebrate a regular family dinner together? How do I meet this need/want?
I paused this evening as I typed away on my computer...how do I communicate with my family? Yes, we do actually talk to one another, but for the most part, we "speak" through text, Voxer, email & Facebook. Welcome to 2012! So why the hell am I so upset that my family is not physically sitting in the 4 chairs that surround my kitchen table?
We all have cell phones & computers; we all have speaker phones on our cells, we all have computers with those fancy cameras on them for video calls. So, why can't we have Sunday (or any other evening) dinner together? Holy Crap! We can have Sunday dinner together! Okay...perhaps Sunday dinner won't work for all of us, but I'm sure we can schedule one meal a week? Right?
I need my family; they feed my soul & remind me how crazy fortunate I am & how wonderful my life is...I need them. When I look into their eyes & listen to their hopes & dreams I realize how blessed I am. I both want & need my family to be victorious & happy & they are! I need to hear about their hopes & dreams...I want to know what they are experiencing in their lives...I want to share my life with them.
So even if it looks kinda weird at my kitchen table on Sunday night with me & David sitting at the table with 2 computers sitting on the other 2 placemats, don't you worry! It's just my 2 beautiful Bellas dialing in from locations far away to help their momma fulfill her needs & wants.
Namaste my friends...